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Abner Comes to David and Is Killed
2 Samuel 3:6–39
Abner offered to help bring Israel to David, but the meeting was followed by treachery, death, and public mourning.
Before you teach
While war continued between Saul's house and David's house, Abner was making himself strong in Saul's house. Then Ishbosheth accused him concerning Rizpah, Saul's concubine. Abner became very angry and said he would help transfer the kingdom to David over Israel and Judah, as the LORD had sworn. Ishbosheth could not answer him, because he was afraid. Abner sent messengers to David and offered his help in bringing all Israel to him. David agreed to make a treaty, but first required Michal, Saul's daughter. David sent to Ishbosheth for her,…
Explain the central teaching of Abner Comes to David and Is Killed, using two details from the reading. Abner offered to help bring Israel to David, but the meeting was followed by treachery, death, and public mourning.
Welcome: Abner Comes to David and Is Killed
5 minIntroduce “Abner Comes to David and Is Killed” and locate 2 Samuel 3:6–39. Abner offered to help bring Israel to David, but the meeting was followed by treachery, death, and public mourning. Invite each learner to name a detail or question they will listen for.
2 Samuel 3:6, 2 Samuel 3:23, 2 Samuel 3:39
Read and explain the passage
12 minWhile war continued between Saul's house and David's house, Abner was making himself strong in Saul's house. Then Ishbosheth accused him concerning Rizpah, Saul's concubine. Abner became very angry and said he would help transfer the kingdom to David over Israel and Judah, as the LORD had sworn. Ishbosheth could not answer him, because he was afraid.
Soon Joab and David's servants returned from a raid with much plunder. When Joab heard that Abner had come and gone in peace, he rebuked David and said Abner had come to deceive him and spy on him. Without David knowing, Joab sent messengers after Abner and brought him back from the well of Sirah.
David spoke judgement against Joab's house and commanded the people to mourn. He followed Abner's bier, wept at the grave, and sang a lament for him. David would not eat until sunset, and the people understood that the king had not arranged Abner's death. David said a great man had fallen in Israel and asked the LORD to repay the evildoer.
Read the selected verses together, pausing at “Abner Comes to David and Is Killed”. Use the source reading below and check the explanation against the words of the passage.
2 Samuel 3:6, 2 Samuel 3:8, 2 Samuel 3:10, 2 Samuel 3:26, 2 Samuel 3:22, 2 Samuel 3:23, 2 Samuel 3:31, 2 Samuel 3:32, 2 Samuel 3:38
Discuss the details and their meaning
8 minUse the three questions below. Begin with ““Abner sent messengers to David and offered his help in bringing all Israel to him.” Which details explain how the account reaches this point?” and allow time to find the supporting verses. Abner offered to help bring Israel to David, but the meeting was followed by treachery, death, and public mourning. Ask learners to explain which details support their answer and to identify a question they would like to explore further.
2 Samuel 3:15, 2 Samuel 3:13, 2 Samuel 3:14, 2 Samuel 3:26, 2 Samuel 3:22, 2 Samuel 3:23, 2 Samuel 3:31, 2 Samuel 3:32, 2 Samuel 3:38
Make and respond: Choices and outcomes evidence map
12 minWork on “Abner Comes to David and Is Killed: Choices and outcomes evidence map”. Follow the materials and steps below, using “Abner Comes to David and Is Killed” as reading headings. Each learner should include at least two accurate details and their verse references. Share one observation from the finished sheet and explain how it connects with the central teaching.
2 Samuel 3:6, 2 Samuel 3:23, 2 Samuel 3:39
Closing: return to Abner Comes to David and Is Killed
3 minRevisit 2 Samuel 3:6–39. Invite a learner to summarise what the group has learned about Abner Comes to David and Is Killed and another to support the summary with a verse. Give learners a moment to complete their response sheet. They can share a question or, if appropriate for the group, join the optional prayer.
2 Samuel 3:6, 2 Samuel 3:23, 2 Samuel 3:39
Questions to explore
“Abner sent messengers to David and offered his help in bringing all Israel to him.” Which details explain how the account reaches this point?
Abner sent messengers to David and offered his help in bringing all Israel to him. David agreed to make a treaty, but first required Michal, Saul's daughter. David sent to Ishbosheth for her, and Ishbosheth took her from her husband, Paltiel son of Laish. Paltiel followed weeping until Abner told him to go back, and he returned.
2 Samuel 3:15, 2 Samuel 3:13, 2 Samuel 3:14
How does this moment affect the rest of the account: “Soon Joab and David's servants returned from a raid with much plunder.”?
Soon Joab and David's servants returned from a raid with much plunder. When Joab heard that Abner had come and gone in peace, he rebuked David and said Abner had come to deceive him and spy on him. Without David knowing, Joab sent messengers after Abner and brought him back from the well of Sirah.
2 Samuel 3:26, 2 Samuel 3:22, 2 Samuel 3:23
“David spoke judgement against Joab's house and commanded the people to mourn.” How does this ending connect with the beginning?
David spoke judgement against Joab's house and commanded the people to mourn. He followed Abner's bier, wept at the grave, and sang a lament for him. David would not eat until sunset, and the people understood that the king had not arranged Abner's death. David said a great man had fallen in Israel and asked the LORD to repay the evildoer.
2 Samuel 3:31, 2 Samuel 3:32, 2 Samuel 3:38
Make, think or respond
Abner Comes to David and Is Killed: Choices and outcomes evidence map
What you’ll need
- plain paper or card
- pencils or pens
- a Bible or the source reading on this page
Try it together
- Fold a sheet into three panels or draw three columns. Label them “Words or actions”, “What happens next”, “Verse reference”.
- Read 2 Samuel 3:6–39. Use “Abner Comes to David and Is Killed” as your reading headings and add a short quotation or detail with its verse reference to each panel.
- Compare your notes with a partner. Check that every quotation is accurate and every conclusion has support in the passage.
- Compare two actions or statements in the account and explain their different outcomes.
The finished sheet keeps the details of Abner Comes to David and Is Killed connected to their Bible references and gives the group a way to explain what they noticed.
Adapt for your group
- For learners who need more support, prepare the reading headings “Abner Comes to David and Is Killed” and let them match short quotations to the correct heading.
- For confident readers, compare two sections of 2 Samuel 3:6–39. Ask for a written explanation with two supporting references and one question that the text leaves open.
An optional closing prayer
“God, help us listen carefully as we read 2 Samuel 3:6–39. Help us understand what we have read, ask thoughtful questions and respond with care for others. Amen.”
Read the Bible passage World English Bible Classic
2 Samuel 3
6 While there was war between Saul’s house and David’s house, Abner made himself strong in Saul’s house.
7 Now Saul had a concubine, whose name was Rizpah, the daughter of Aiah; and Ishbosheth said to Abner, “Why have you gone in to my father’s concubine?”
8 Then Abner was very angry about Ishbosheth’s words, and said, “Am I a dog’s head that belongs to Judah? Today I show kindness to your father Saul’s house, to his brothers, and to his friends, and have not delivered you into the hand of David; and yet you charge me today with a fault concerning this woman!
9 God do so to Abner, and more also, if, as Yahweh has sworn to David, I don’t do even so to him:
10 to transfer the kingdom from Saul’s house, and to set up David’s throne over Israel and over Judah, from Dan even to Beersheba.”
11 He could not answer Abner another word, because he was afraid of him.
12 Abner sent messengers to David on his behalf, saying, “Whose is the land?” and saying, “Make your alliance with me, and behold, my hand will be with you to bring all Israel around to you.”
13 David said, “Good. I will make a treaty with you, but one thing I require of you. That is, you will not see my face unless you first bring Michal, Saul’s daughter, when you come to see my face.”
14 David sent messengers to Ishbosheth, Saul’s son, saying, “Deliver me my wife Michal, whom I was given to marry for one hundred foreskins of the Philistines.”
15 Ishbosheth sent and took her from her husband, Paltiel the son of Laish.
16 Her husband went with her, weeping as he went, and followed her to Bahurim. Then Abner said to him, “Go! Return!” and he returned.
17 Abner had communication with the elders of Israel, saying, “In times past, you sought for David to be king over you.
18 Now then do it! For Yahweh has spoken of David, saying, ‘By the hand of my servant David, I will save my people Israel out of the hand of the Philistines, and out of the hand of all their enemies.’ ”
19 Abner also spoke in the ears of Benjamin; and Abner went also to speak in the ears of David in Hebron all that seemed good to Israel and to the whole house of Benjamin.
20 So Abner came to David to Hebron, and twenty men with him. David made Abner and the men who were with him a feast.
21 Abner said to David, “I will arise and go, and will gather all Israel to my lord the king, that they may make a covenant with you, and that you may reign over all that your soul desires.” David sent Abner away; and he went in peace.
22 Behold, David’s servants and Joab came from a raid and brought in a great plunder with them; but Abner was not with David in Hebron, for he had sent him away, and he had gone in peace.
23 When Joab and all the army who was with him had come, they told Joab, “Abner the son of Ner came to the king, and he has sent him away, and he has gone in peace.”
24 Then Joab came to the king and said, “What have you done? Behold, Abner came to you. Why is it that you have sent him away, and he is already gone?
25 You know Abner the son of Ner. He came to deceive you, and to know your going out and your coming in, and to know all that you do.”
26 When Joab had come out from David, he sent messengers after Abner, and they brought him back from the well of Sirah; but David didn’t know it.
27 When Abner had returned to Hebron, Joab took him aside into the middle of the gate to speak with him quietly, and struck him there in the body, so that he died for the blood of Asahel his brother.
28 Afterward, when David heard it, he said, “I and my kingdom are guiltless before Yahweh forever of the blood of Abner the son of Ner.
29 Let it fall on the head of Joab and on all his father’s house. Let there not fail from the house of Joab one who has a discharge, or who is a leper, or who leans on a staff, or who falls by the sword, or who lacks bread.”
30 So Joab and Abishai his brother killed Abner, because he had killed their brother Asahel at Gibeon in the battle.
31 David said to Joab and to all the people who were with him, “Tear your clothes, and clothe yourselves with sackcloth, and mourn in front of Abner.” King David followed the bier.
32 They buried Abner in Hebron; and the king lifted up his voice and wept at Abner’s grave; and all the people wept.
33 The king lamented for Abner, and said, “Should Abner die as a fool dies?
34 Your hands weren’t bound, and your feet weren’t put into fetters. As a man falls before the children of iniquity, so you fell.” All the people wept again over him.
35 All the people came to urge David to eat bread while it was yet day; but David swore, saying, “God do so to me, and more also, if I taste bread or anything else, until the sun goes down.”
36 All the people took notice of it, and it pleased them, as whatever the king did pleased all the people.
37 So all the people and all Israel understood that day that it was not of the king to kill Abner the son of Ner.
38 The king said to his servants, “Don’t you know that a prince and a great man has fallen today in Israel?
39 I am weak today, though anointed king. These men, the sons of Zeruiah are too hard for me. May Yahweh reward the evildoer according to his wickedness.”
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